In Vietnam there is a fruit that many people love called durian.
It has a strong smell and it’s quite expensive.
Many people like it very much, but I don’t like it at all.
Someone who sees me working very hard might think, “Oh, Thay must be very tired; I should offer him some durian.”
But if you forced me to eat it, I would suffer a lot.
So to love someone, you have to understand the real needs of that person, and not impose on her what you think is needed for her to be happy.
Understanding is the foundation of love.
Thich Nhat Hanh
Day 24 of the 35 Days of Love